My journey of Unlocking My Best Life

I was spending the hot Texas summer days having fun in the pool with my two girls. I had accepted a generous severance package from my executive management position. I was so excited to be trying out this “full-time mom” gig - I would really enjoy this time and decide on my new career path in the fall.

      Or at least that was my plan…

  Five years later, I was overwhelmed, overweight, and feeling stuck. My career was indefinitely on hold, we had moved to a new city, I had two kids in school, two babies at home and I still did a smidge of business consulting on the side. I had experienced personal losses, and marriage was so hard.

I remember the month that all four kids and I were plagued with recurring bouts of strep throat. All I wanted was an elusive hot shower and a good long sleep. 

I adored my kids but, but I was losing myself while taking care of everyone else. 

 One day, a friend asked if I wanted to join a fitness bootcamp. While I really wanted to, I could not justify the cost, but I knew this would change my life for the better. 

So, instead of remaining a victim of circumstances, I decided to take back control of my life. I got certified and built my fitness and coaching businesses. I was hand crafting my life with purpose and it felt amazing!

When it seemed I was most fulfilled, life knocked me down hard in 2015.

I had a major surgery resulting in 9 months of healing and recovery.

Troubles in my marriage escalated to separation.  

My kids’ needs were growing, and my businesses were not. 

My overall well-being was in serious jeopardy. 

One day, I literally fell into a puddle of spilled paint in my bedroom. I laid there for at least an hour crying and disappointed about the state of my life.

In this moment, I committed to change my life for good.

I cried out to God and I decided that circumstances and other people would no longer hold me back.  He has led me on the journey of unlocking my best self and my best life, despite life’s challenges and suffering.


I have joy living my truth, as my authentic best self.

I have fulfillment living my purpose, on purpose.

I have freedom from living a well-integrated life, by design.

I am unlocking my best life daily, despite life’s inevitable challenges.

 I want this for you.

My enormous ‘aha’ moment was realizing that finding my best self and living my truth and my purpose is not selfish. It is the only way to keep unlocking my best life and better serve those I care about the most.

Spoiler alert!  Unlocking my best life DOES NOT mean I have a perfect life now...

Over the past five years, my children have experienced serious ongoing mental health challenges and medical issues requiring my greatest vigilance. I have navigated the very painful and long process of ending my 29-year marriage during the pandemic. Like everyone, we are adapting to the uncertain concerns of COVID and ongoing world tensions in 2020. 

Because I am living my authentic truth, which is grounded in my faith, I have better boundaries to extend and receive love. I courageously advocate for my children, without losing myself in the suffering. I am rejecting fear and the thoughts of shame and guilt that have held me back in business & life. I have greater clarity and confidence to consistently serve and love my family, my clients and myself well. 

I am living with purpose, on purpose every day. I am growing my influence and making the impact God called me to in the world, despite the challenges. This is the journey of unlocking your best life. This journey brings joy, fulfillment, and freedom daily. To HIM be the glory, every day!

I want this for you. 

So, how do you take the journey of unlocking YOUR best life?

10 CHOICES will bring you clarity, certainty, and confidence for each step on your journey:

  1. DECIDE to take 100% responsibility for your thoughts, feelings, and actions.
  2. COMMIT to the journey of unlocking your best life daily.
  3. FIND your truth and be your authentic best self.
  4. CLARIFY your calling and purposes you are created for.
  5. DESIGN the vision for your well-integrated best life.
  6. PLAN your time, energy, and resources to move toward specific goals.
  7. GROW your mastery of knowledge, skills, resources, and best practices.
  8. CONNECT with communities, professionals and mentors for healing and growth.
  9. PERFORM to achieve your goals and increase your influence & impact.
  10. OPTIMIZE to keep unlocking your joy, fulfillment & freedom daily.

The keys to unlocking each step are in your intentionally aligned thoughts, feelings, and actions.

The journey is not one most people choose to take. Most people live on autopilot or as a victim to their circumstances, without choosing to pursue better for themselves. 

Do you feel a bit lost?

Does life seem overwhelming? 

Are you disappointed about where you are in life? 

Do you feel stuck?

In my work, I now have he honor to coach others to keep stepping forward to better in their life and their work. The greatest way you can move forward is to choose to get unstuck, find your authentic best self, and live a life of purpose, on purpose.

You will experience a new freedom to live confidently from your truth. I promise it is within reach and is the most unselfish way to serve those you love the most and make your unique impact in the world.

You are worth it.  

As a Mom, a Grammy, a success coach, and a businesswoman, I know that this requires commitment daily.  I am cheering for you.  

Do YOU want more joy, fulfillment, and freedom in your life?

YOU are worth it!

I would love for you to JOIN me in my FREE  Unlocking Your Best Life Group community on Facebook. I share teaching on #tuesdaywithtammy LIVE and daily motivation or challenges.

Do you hang out on Instagram?  I'm there every day too. Come find me :)  

FYI -  The FB community is NOT specifically faith based.  My client work is not exclusively for people that share my faith.  Because my values are rooted Christian beliefs, you will see how my faith is part of my truth.  I am honored to coach and support diverse populations of persons ready for the next level in business and life.  

My prayer for each of you is this... 

Now all glory to God, who is able, through his mighty power at work within us, to accomplish infinitely more than we might ask or think.” Ephesians 3:20

“The thief’s purpose is to steal and kill and destroy. My purpose is to give them a rich and satisfying life.” John 10:10 

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